Thought-Provoking Questions for Couples

Every year at the beginning of January, my husband and I take time to getaway and have some intentional “us time.” Part of this little getaway includes reflecting on the past year and goal-setting for the year ahead. We make goals individually for our personal and professional lives, and also make goals together as a family unit.

This practice has been so helpful for our communication and relationship, and has also helped us to make goals that we actually remember and can stick to!

I recently recorded a podcast episode that goes into detail on what our goal-setting process looks like. I don’t consider myself an expert on life coaching by any means, but this is something we always get so many questions about, so I knew I had to share!

Something I mentioned on that episode was the thought-provoking questions we like to ask each other to keep the conversation going. You can find the complete list of questions below – these are especially fun to ask each other in the car, on a walk, or while out to dinner.

And these aren’t just for couples! Okay, some of them are. But if you’re a single person who’s looking to be a little more intentional with your vision-casting for the year, I highly recommend that you grab a friend, a roomie, or a family member who you have a good relationship with and who you can trust to keep you accountable and go through these questions together. And remember, both of you have to take turns answering!

  1. What are big goals for the next 4 months?
  2. What are big goals for the next year?
  3. What’s one thing you’d like to see change in our relationship? What’s one new thing you’d like to start?
  4. How can I better support your goals?
  5. What’s something you’re not looking forward to for this year?
  6. What would you like to do more of this year?
  7. How can we put better habits in place with our phones?
  8. How can we do a better job of getting along?
  9. How can we do a better job of resting and getting a better sleep schedule?
  10. How would you like to start your mornings and end your days?
  11. What are some financial goals for you over the next few years?
  12. Do you feel I am there for you when you need me?
  13. What’s something I’ve been doing lately (or can do) that makes you feel respected/disrespected?
  14. What’s something you’re proud of yourself for lately? What’s something you would like to work on?
  15. When do you feel the most connected to me emotionally? 
  16. Is there anything that is hard to talk to me about?
  17. What makes you feel heard and understood when we communicate?
  18. The last time you lost your temper with me, what was the trigger? How can we do better?
  19. How do your parents communicate? Likes/dislikes about the way they communicate?
  20. What’s your favorite memory from our wedding?

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