Every year at the beginning of January, my husband and I take time to getaway and have some intentional “us time.” Part of this little getaway includes reflecting on the past year and goal-setting for the year ahead. We make goals individually for our personal and professional lives, and also make goals together as a family unit.
This practice has been so helpful for our communication and relationship, and has also helped us to make goals that we actually remember and can stick to!
I recently recorded a podcast episode that goes into detail on what our goal-setting process looks like. I don’t consider myself an expert on life coaching by any means, but this is something we always get so many questions about, so I knew I had to share!
Something I mentioned on that episode was the thought-provoking questions we like to ask each other to keep the conversation going. You can find the complete list of questions below – these are especially fun to ask each other in the car, on a walk, or while out to dinner.
And these aren’t just for couples! Okay, some of them are. But if you’re a single person who’s looking to be a little more intentional with your vision-casting for the year, I highly recommend that you grab a friend, a roomie, or a family member who you have a good relationship with and who you can trust to keep you accountable and go through these questions together. And remember, both of you have to take turns answering!
- What are big goals for the next 4 months?
- What are big goals for the next year?
- What’s one thing you’d like to see change in our relationship? What’s one new thing you’d like to start?
- How can I better support your goals?
- What’s something you’re not looking forward to for this year?
- What would you like to do more of this year?
- How can we put better habits in place with our phones?
- How can we do a better job of getting along?
- How can we do a better job of resting and getting a better sleep schedule?
- How would you like to start your mornings and end your days?
- What are some financial goals for you over the next few years?
- Do you feel I am there for you when you need me?
- What’s something I’ve been doing lately (or can do) that makes you feel respected/disrespected?
- What’s something you’re proud of yourself for lately? What’s something you would like to work on?
- When do you feel the most connected to me emotionally?
- Is there anything that is hard to talk to me about?
- What makes you feel heard and understood when we communicate?
- The last time you lost your temper with me, what was the trigger? How can we do better?
- How do your parents communicate? Likes/dislikes about the way they communicate?
- What’s your favorite memory from our wedding?